Haters to the left...

[onthethruway01]

Dear LJ,

I love my fandom.  It's not easy for a 40 something white  woman to admit to her friends and family that she is obsessed with Korean pop bands.  As a child I faced religious persecution.  As a grown up I've cringed as my co-workers bashed anyone who wasn't white.  I got into fandom as a fluke, and I'm loving every minute of it.  I enjoy reading and writing fan fiction.  I like drawing, doing macros and posting pics and discussing music with you all.  But it distresses me when I go to read some news or see a video of a group I like and find people trashing them so rudely.

Why can't we; a group of people from all faiths, races, and walks of life, enjoy our hobbies without being haters?  Do you want someone to continuously say bad things about the celebrities you like?  What ever happened to diplomacy?  Come on now!  I know you guys are young, but don't let your teenage / young adult angst get in the way of your judgment.

If you really and truly hate a band with a passion, it doesn't matter.  Your cruel words are unnecessary.  Instead of writing  "I think they are shitty and should just quit,"  why not say.  "I'll pass, not interested."  It shows they are not your "cup of tea" without being nasty. 

Do you want to be like those sad people who made Jay Park go home?  Do you want to stoop to their level? Maybe that seems harsh, but as someone who supports all of K pop ( yes I do; I support the whole genre even if i don't follow each individual band), I'm finding it hard to remain calm as one of my favorite groups is continually put down.

I could be a bitch and trash your bands.  Would you like that?  I can be pretty nasty if I so chose.  But instead, I remain calm and let it pass.  I would like to believe that there is some amount of maturity out there.  Don't disappoint me ladies and gentlemen (yes, fanboys, I know you are out there).

Let's unite together as intelligent people who enjoy all aspects of Asian pop music.  Wish the new bands luck, and if you can't say anything nice, then don't say anything at all.

Remember:  Yoochun is always watching you.....

Mazeltov, abi gezunt!

Comments

[shenlu.livejournal.com]

Sorry to randomly comment but it has to be done. YOU are a GENIUS. Thank you so much for writing this. I've been a fan of Kpop for about 7-8 years and, as a white woman myself, I relate to you, it's hard to express the love I have for my randoms to other people that JUST don't understand it and label me as 'abnormal'. For me, the bashing has become so out of control, as you said, if you don't like someone WHY make the effort to insult them? I've never understood the mentality of haters... I much prefer adoring my babies than cursing someone elses pride and joy out of the water. I am very much a silent reader of everywhere I go (which is pretty much everywhere for Kpop) and it's on rare occasions like this that I feel the NEED to post. So again, you rock, you're spot on and the bashing needs to end. ZE:A FANS UNITE <3 (I'm so bad at voicing my opinions via text XD Hence I'm a silent reader bahaha).

[onthethruway01.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much for replying. I just had to express my feelings. I knew my friends would reply, but it's so nice to have folks I don't know voice their opinions. ZE:A needs more love; less bashing. All the groups do. I am planning to post this on the next FFA. We shall see what kind of a frenzy I create. It should be interesting.