Haters to the left...

[onthethruway01]

Dear LJ,

I love my fandom.  It's not easy for a 40 something white  woman to admit to her friends and family that she is obsessed with Korean pop bands.  As a child I faced religious persecution.  As a grown up I've cringed as my co-workers bashed anyone who wasn't white.  I got into fandom as a fluke, and I'm loving every minute of it.  I enjoy reading and writing fan fiction.  I like drawing, doing macros and posting pics and discussing music with you all.  But it distresses me when I go to read some news or see a video of a group I like and find people trashing them so rudely.

Why can't we; a group of people from all faiths, races, and walks of life, enjoy our hobbies without being haters?  Do you want someone to continuously say bad things about the celebrities you like?  What ever happened to diplomacy?  Come on now!  I know you guys are young, but don't let your teenage / young adult angst get in the way of your judgment.

If you really and truly hate a band with a passion, it doesn't matter.  Your cruel words are unnecessary.  Instead of writing  "I think they are shitty and should just quit,"  why not say.  "I'll pass, not interested."  It shows they are not your "cup of tea" without being nasty. 

Do you want to be like those sad people who made Jay Park go home?  Do you want to stoop to their level? Maybe that seems harsh, but as someone who supports all of K pop ( yes I do; I support the whole genre even if i don't follow each individual band), I'm finding it hard to remain calm as one of my favorite groups is continually put down.

I could be a bitch and trash your bands.  Would you like that?  I can be pretty nasty if I so chose.  But instead, I remain calm and let it pass.  I would like to believe that there is some amount of maturity out there.  Don't disappoint me ladies and gentlemen (yes, fanboys, I know you are out there).

Let's unite together as intelligent people who enjoy all aspects of Asian pop music.  Wish the new bands luck, and if you can't say anything nice, then don't say anything at all.

Remember:  Yoochun is always watching you.....

Mazeltov, abi gezunt!

Comments

[shanh090.livejournal.com]

I think i love you for writing this, and i can relate to you. i still haven't told anyone i like kpop because i'm biracial and apparently it ~weird~ to like asian pop music if your not asian yourself :/.

[elphiascutie3.livejournal.com]

I know how you feel. I'm white as they come and living in southern America which is like 'You must love country music or you're a weirdo'. I didn't know I'd get such weird looks when I told everybody what type of music I like. Most people just humor me but I have made a few awesome friends because I was open about it. Embrace the the fandom you might make some cool real life friends ^__^

[onthethruway01.livejournal.com]

Thank you for commenting. I don't get people anymore. I'm just so fed up with all the hate being thrown at ZE:A and other groups. I just can't understand why people can't keep their mouths shut. I bet if we bashed one of the other groups like SHINee or DBSK, they'd be shooting guns at us ( of course I like SHINee and DBSK - just using them as an example).

As far as people outside of fandom is concerned, to Hell with them; at least you are not molesting children, scamming old folks out of their money or arranging for dog fights at Michael Vick's house.

[dannyupshaw.livejournal.com]

I know, I know. Where are my tissues...

[onthethruway01.livejournal.com]

I ran out of mine.